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The Ethical Slut, Third Edition

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The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.

One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read, no matter what your lifestyle choices. It's chock-full of great information about communication, jealousy, asking for what you want, and maintaining a relationship with integrity.–Annie Sprinkle, PhD, sexologist and author of Dr. Sprinkle's Spectacular Sex

For 20 years The Ethical Slut–widely known as the Poly Bible–has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to the ethics of relationships, communication, and sex has been revised to include:

  • Interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships)
  • Tributes to polyamory pioneers
  • Tools for conflict resolution and instructions on how to improve interpersonal dynamics
  • New sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, LGBTQ terminology, and ways polys can connect and thrive

The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of more than two: couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilizing nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition.

Customer Reviews (4.8 / 5 · 5 reviews)

Benjamin P. ★★★★★

I’ve read through this twice already and keep catching new nuances in the updated chapters on communication and jealousy—it’s genuinely refreshing how the third edition tackles modern dating apps and non-hierarchical relationships without preaching. The book’s structure makes it easy to jump between

Robert P. ★★★★★

I’m usually skimming self-help books by page 30, but here I am three chapters deep and genuinely rethinking how I approach intimacy. The updated sections on modern non-monogamy and communication feel current, not preachy.

Edward ★★★★★

Got this for a book club deep-dive and the updated sections on communication and jealousy are worth the price alone. It's dense but never dry, and the exercises at the end of each chapter actually got my partner and me talking.